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Helping Your Child Through Necessary But Painful Things

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It is painful as a parent to watch our children in pain, or anticipating pain.

And confusing in situations where there is necessary pain and discomfort like in the case of medical care.

The key to helping our children navigate these challenging moments is in staying calm (not taking their anxiety on) and in staying present (feeling empathy for their fear and discomfort but not shutting down).

As adults if we avoid their anxiety and worry it will continue to cycle inside their little bodies and likely come out more intensely.

I always tell myself "this is an opportunity for my child to learn more about their emotions and for me to continue to show them what empathy and support in a relationship feels like".

Hang in there parents, Dentists and Doctors visits are not for the faint of heart 💜❤️💜❤️

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