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Yes, a connected approach to parenting takes more time when your kids are little.
It means investing in their emotional worlds and helping them understand them and cope with them without shutting them down.
But it also means less time feeling terrible about the way you reacted to your children. AND it means less time trying to repair broken trust when they are older.
Investing in your children is time well spent, and the beautiful relationship you will develop will absolutely be worth it.
In this video, the speaker discusses time outs from a perspective based on attachment research, emphasizing the importance of taking breaks to help reset our brains when we are dysregulated and the need for calm co-regulation rather than isolating with shame or pain as a lesson, adding that the lesson we want to teach is that our bodies need breaks sometimes to calm down so our brains can make good, safe choices - and this lesson applies to marriages as well!
In this video, you'll learn that hovering over our kids to protect them is not the best form of protection, as they need us to be connected with them so they can come to us as a refuge, and that the best protection we can offer them is connection.
Join your child in their delight and communicate to them that their instincts and preferences are valuable and valid - this is key in developing their self-esteem, and play is the perfect context for learning and bonding.