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Compassion fatigue is real. And so is the power of repair.
If you have a failure of empathy with your kids, own your failure, offer compassion delayed, give space for their pain about your lack of compassion, and start the dance of connection again.
We all get out of step. The key is getting back in and taking the lead to get there.
P.S. we had our repair this morning and he said "mom it's ok, we all get grumpy sometimes, and anyways I had already forgotten"
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