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Anger Does Not Cause Violence

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Anger is not dangerous, and it needs empathy and space in our relationships.

But it can be triggering. ESP if we have experienced rage or violence in our journey.

We often treat children feeling anger as if they are behaving badly, but the feeling of anger is a valid and important feeling.

We need to teach our kids (and ourselves) how to feel anger and trust anger and share anger safely.

And when a small child hits when angry, they aren't being violent. They still lack the language to communicate effectively. YES, teach them, intervene and be clear that we use our words to communicate, but instead of shaming them for their anger, help them uncover it and listen to it and learn to communicate the underlying need.

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