The term "boundary" can feel cold and disconnecting, which makes it hard for many of us to successfully ask for what we need in our close relationships, especially when that need is asking someone to stop a behavior or use a different tactic in relating to us.
But without healthy boundaries, resentment grows in our relationships, putting them at risk...
So think of boundaries as the strong links between two train cars that keep them together but safe from crashing into each other.
Boundaries are not about being distant from people, they are about being both connected and separate. They give us enough distance to remain true to ourselves, and keep our connection authentic in order to keep us tethered securely to each other.
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