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A Message To The Primary Breadwinner Parent Working Outside the Home

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One of the greatest challenges a couple goes thru in their attachment is the immense constant work that comes with having children.

I have been lucky enough to share a partnership where we both work some and both stay at home with the kids some. This has allowed us a deep understanding of what it feels like on each side.

But many of my clients have not had this privilege and have gotten stuck in some dangerous failures of understanding, especially around the idea that one partner "works" and the other "stays home".

Both people are working. Childcare is WORK.

Today I encourage everyone to reflect on the reality a partner laboring to care for children endures everyday, without being paid a single penny for their gargantuan efforts.

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