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You Do Not Have Control Over Your Kids

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The myth of parental control is so prevalent in our culture and our mindsets it is a hard one to shake. 

I struggle with its presence in my own mind daily. 

But I know it's a myth. We are not in control of our children and if we relate through power and control, we do great harm to our children and our relationship with them. 

But we are in control of how we respond to our children. 

When we take our focus off controlling their behavior and onto how we respond with our behavior we can offer a far more secure attachment relationship for our children as they grow and mature into people who have greater neurological capacity for self control. 

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