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A huge component of a secure attachment relationship between parent and child is a parent's ability to accept who their child is. When we accept our children, we teach them to accept themselves which leads to a rich inner confidence and resilience in a world that will not always accept them.
There is nature (who your child is) and nurture (how your responses to who they are makes them feel about it)
In this video, learn about the power of empathy when dealing with anger, but also be warned about the limits of empathy in the context of abusive mentalities, where anger is used to justify harmful behavior.
A message to all fathers: keep going with your efforts to connect with your children because they desperately need to see what a healthy, connected, caring male looks like, and it will create a secure attachment that fosters resilience.
Teaching healthy conflict resolution to our children means modeling it for them, which requires communicating and connecting through conflict without fighting dirty or being violent.