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Disgust gets a bad rap. We often forget it is an emotion and natural to our bodies. It isn't disrespectful or even rude.
It's designed to help us move away from material and people that might be rotten.
Help your kids learn to trust and listen to the creepy feeling they get when someone touches them or stands too close to them etc.
You can still teach kids how to communicate their disgust feelings respectfully without shutting them down.
Our disgust can be the difference between safety and trauma if we see it as a trustworthy warning and not simply something to stuff away.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, you'll learn the shAmeBC's for helping someone you love navigate the painful emotional state of shame by acknowledging their feelings, buffering them with calmness and presence, and connecting with them in an authentic human way to help them feel worthy and not alone.
Parenting can be tough, but taking a minute to reflect on your long-term goals and imagining your kids as adults can help guide your decisions and strengthen your relationship with them - remember to be kind to yourself and hold onto the vision.