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Disgust gets a bad rap. We often forget it is an emotion and natural to our bodies. It isn't disrespectful or even rude.
It's designed to help us move away from material and people that might be rotten.
Help your kids learn to trust and listen to the creepy feeling they get when someone touches them or stands too close to them etc.
You can still teach kids how to communicate their disgust feelings respectfully without shutting them down.
Our disgust can be the difference between safety and trauma if we see it as a trustworthy warning and not simply something to stuff away.
In this video, the speaker discusses how our culture tends to attribute behaviors and motivations to people's private parts, and proposes the term "Overgenitalization" to help us understand that violence and nurture do not come from a person's reproductive body parts, but rather from the environments and social experiences they are raised in.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, learn why dismissing a child's emotions can hinder their ability to gain perspective, and how to help them process their feelings to build emotional resilience for bigger challenges later in life.