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What to do When Your Kid Rejects Your Attempts to Comfort Them

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Sometimes our children are so filled with adrenaline during a burst of emotion that it takes their neurochemistry a minute to reset. Their brain is triggered and they are not able yet to be calm enough to be comforted.

They need us to pause and stay calm and not take their reaction personally.

They WILL calm down if you give them compassion and time.

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