Lots of misinformation around about attachment. It isn't about breastfeeding and bed sharing. It's about feeling soothed and regulated in proximity to close figures in your life.
If you don't have a secure attachment growing up, you usually struggle to feel secure with others as an adult.
But an insecure attachment style is not a life long sentence.
If you put in the time to reflect, grieve and grow ...you can earn a secure attachment and heal and move forward.
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Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
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In this video, you'll learn that because we identify with our attachment loves, we are more likely to treat them the same way we treat ourselves, and that being more gentle with ourselves can lead to more kindness and generosity towards the people who matter most.
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In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
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