One of the reasons we have such rampant violence towards women in this culture is the sneaky confusion between someone wanting to respectfully connect with us vs someone wanting ownership over our bodies.
The phrase "getting hit on" should disturb everyone, yet it gets used as a positive idea. This confuses women into thinking we should like and accept it when someone is sexually harassing us without care for our feelings or lack of equal enthusiasm.
Hitting and loving should never be equated. Ever.
Teaching our children (esp our daughters) to be suspicious of people who are aggressive about their interest in our bodies is integral in teaching our kids to know the difference between safe and unsafe potential romantic partners.
Safe people are gentle with their desire and make space for our reactions. They also stop when they sense we are hesitant, or not interested.
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In this video, you'll learn that hovering over our kids to protect them is not the best form of protection, as they need us to be connected with them so they can come to us as a refuge, and that the best protection we can offer them is connection.
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In this video, you'll learn that while it's developmentally normal for small children to struggle with impulse control and physical aggression, it's important to teach your child about body ownership, setting boundaries, and protecting them from hurtful behavior, especially in situations where the other parent is not intervening.
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This eye-opening video urges parents to teach their children about respecting boundaries around physical touch and affection, and emphasizes the importance of enthusiastic consent in building a healthier society.
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