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Reminder that sometimes the meltdown goes viral. When that happens you aren't going to be able to meet everyone's needs at once. You focus instead on minimizing the damage. Keep yourself from losing it as much as you can and focus on getting to the next thing so everyone can shift gears.
Use compassion on the outside even if you too are viral on the inside.
Hang in there parents. It's a real sh*t show some days.
In this video, you'll learn that when facing defiance from children, it's important to avoid grabbing for power and instead seek connection, getting curious about their needs and working with a spirit of compassion to help them, rather than against them.
In this video, the speaker discusses time outs from a perspective based on attachment research, emphasizing the importance of taking breaks to help reset our brains when we are dysregulated and the need for calm co-regulation rather than isolating with shame or pain as a lesson, adding that the lesson we want to teach is that our bodies need breaks sometimes to calm down so our brains can make good, safe choices - and this lesson applies to marriages as well!