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Reminder that sometimes the meltdown goes viral. When that happens you aren't going to be able to meet everyone's needs at once. You focus instead on minimizing the damage. Keep yourself from losing it as much as you can and focus on getting to the next thing so everyone can shift gears.
Use compassion on the outside even if you too are viral on the inside.
Hang in there parents. It's a real sh*t show some days.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
In this video, Dr. Laura Markham shares practical tips on how to help kids and parents manage boredom by staying in a place of compassionate teaching, which involves expressing empathy, helping kids notice body sensations, developing the habit of seeing boredom as an unidentified need state, being patient, and teaching kids to discover their own options without collapsing into despair.
Learn how to regulate your emotions and offer calm and compassionate support to your child when they are upset, even if you experienced childhood trauma or lack of emotional support from your parents, in this insightful video that emphasizes the importance of parking your inner child in a safe place, attending to their needs, and returning to being the parent your child needs.