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Using Playfulness as a Motivation Strategy

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When we are unable to reach our children through gentle and respectful requests (aka we ask nicely 16 times for something and it isn't happening), there is a temptation to pivot to harshness, threats, and punishments to motivate them.

Unfortunately, when we go that route, our behavior adds tension and fear into the learning process and limits the amount of our children's brains that are online.

Instead of turning the volume up on fear and punishment,  turn the volume up on playfulness.

When we are playful we engage our child's whole brain. It makes learning easier and deeper. Plus you have more fun too.

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