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We all want our kids to grow into resilient adults...here are the three things they need from you to have a good chance at that outcome.
1) Normalizing and verbalizing their emotional responses.
2) Actively communicating your support as a secure base for their tender needs and distress feelings.
3) Teaching them the socially acceptable ways of coping and interacting with others.
In this video, the speaker advocates for preparing new mothers and birthing parents for the mental health journey that comes after giving birth, discussing mental health nuances and providing clarity and compassion for those going through this stage.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
Learn how to overcome compassion fatigue and repair your relationship with your kids by owning your failure, offering delayed compassion, and starting the dance of connection again in this powerful video.