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Raising securely attached children is a beautiful thing and will protect them in innumerable ways.
But there is one thing that it does render them vulnerable to. That is people who are manipulative enough to pray upon their loyalty and love.
Securely attached people are remarkably compassionate and caring and don't want anyone to suffer.
So as parents we need to equip them with the knowledge of how to identify abuse in their lives AND what healthy mutual commitment is and isn't.
Especially for our girls who are targeted in tremendous ways by partners who seek control, make sure your kids know that leaving a bad situation is not abandoning someone.
Learn why idealization can lead to grandiose pressure and the dangers of love bombing in this insightful video on building trust and secure attachment in relationships.
In this video, you'll learn that hovering over our kids to protect them is not the best form of protection, as they need us to be connected with them so they can come to us as a refuge, and that the best protection we can offer them is connection.