1.

Responsiveness Does Not Spoil Children

Downloads
No items found.
Summary

One of the most prevalent fallacies in human development is the idea that if you respond attentively to your young children, it will form them into weak self-centered dependent adults.

The research indicates the exact opposite. When children experience emotional attunement and responsiveness from their caregivers it helps them feel safe, which in turn helps their brain develop more awareness and complex focus in relationships. When children's emotional needs are ignored, they develop heightened fear states that make it hard for them to learn the nuances of relationships. (check out the strange situation studies, and Es Tronick's Still Face Experiment, and the Adult Attachment Interview, and all the longitudinal studies done with all three tools).

You aren't spoiling your child when you comfort them, hold them, respond to them, and treat them with the same respect you would want in a difficult or need based moment.

Ignore the judgment and follow your instincts for care. I promise you won't regret it.

Transcript
!7maZdGQE

Join the Attachment Nerd Herd

Complete access for $29

Similar to what you just watched

How to Support a Child Who Has Been Sexually Abused or Traumatized
7:54

Discover how to support a child who has experienced sexual abuse with this overview guide. Learn essential steps, from providing empathy and encouragement to seeking professional help, ensuring their path to recovery is filled with love and support.

View
The Three Things Kids Need to Turn Into Resilient Adults
00:38

Discover the three key things you need to do to help your children develop resilience and become strong, confident adults in this insightful video.

View
Does Connected Parenting Take More Time?
01:28

In this video, you'll learn why investing time in a connected approach to parenting when your kids are young can lead to a beautiful relationship with your children and less time repairing broken trust in the future.

View