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What if instead of trying to get the younger generations to do things the way we think they should, we trusted them to make the changes they see necessary?
In a culture that is so fixated on grasping for control, it's easy to get caught up in it and try to get our children to think like we do or see the world the way that we do.
But the true job of a parent is to be a safe haven and secure base that allows our children the confidence to explore the world fully and adventure beyond our own experiences. To learn MORE than we did and see MORE than we've seen.
Then each generation can do a little more to make the world and humanity better places to exist.
Learn how to foster secure attachment with your child by being a consistently responsive and connection-focused parent, and don't beat yourself up for not being perfect - the important thing is to focus on repairing and staying dedicated to the relationship.
In this video, Dr. Ramani explains how being devalued as a child can lead to over-idealizing your own children, ultimately making them ill-equipped to handle life's challenges, and suggests that adoring and guiding them with boundaries and limits is a healthier approach.
The difference between consequences and punishment is important to understand, as consequences are the natural outcome of an action and necessary for learning, while punishments are intentional pain inflicted to control behavior, which can damage the parent-child relationship and hinder a child's growth towards internal security.