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Parenting Perspective: Thinking About the Long Memory

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Sometimes in the moment we forget the long term goals of parenting. We are exhausted or lost in someone else's judgment or just don't know what to do.

Take one minute and pause. Imagine your kids as grownups recounting this moment, what do you wish for them to have felt or experienced from you?

Do your best and be kind when you mess up (we all do ALOT)

Hold onto the vision of your long term relationship with your kids when you're making the tedious short term decisions of the day. You won't regret it.

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