Raise your hand if you've ever eaten food off the floor or couch because the effort it would take to put it in the trash felt far more burdensome than the effort to simply put it down the mouth hatch 🙋
Sigh. Making good decisions when you are:
Tired
Hungry
Lonely
Angry (yes my AA folks I see you putting the HALT together)
In loss and grief
In a change or transition
Anxious
Depressed
Stressed the f out
Over stimulated
Under stimulated
Dealing with oppression
Battling pain (chronic or not)
Etc etc.
We don't make our decisions simply from some clear moral center in our brains. We make our decisions from the contexts that are putting us into different mental states.
The more support and resources a person has the higher their capacity to learn how to take care of themselves, their loved ones and the greater community.
This is true for me. And all the adults I've ever met.
This is even more true for children whose brains are not even fully formed yet.
When a kid or a grownup is making poor choices, remember to see them in the context of their past and present. Remember to offer them (and yourself) compassion based on their context and understanding as a fellow human on this wild unpredictable, and sometimes painful ride.
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Parenting can be tough, but taking a minute to reflect on your long-term goals and imagining your kids as adults can help guide your decisions and strengthen your relationship with them - remember to be kind to yourself and hold onto the vision.
In this video, the speaker emphasizes the importance of attuning to children's inner world to build a secure attachment and suggests occasionally checking in with kids about their needs for love and affection, particularly during developmental leaps, to ensure that the love we give them is getting through in the way we intend it to.
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In this heartwarming video, a gate attendant at Denver International Airport demonstrates the incredible power of empathy and patience in de-escalating a tense situation during a 6.5 hour flight delay, highlighting how accepting and understanding a child's emotions (and an adult's) can prevent dangerous behavioral responses and soothe their nervous systems.
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