How to Stay Calm When Your Children Are Not

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One of the most important roles we play in our children's lives is the role of assisting with emotional regulation.

Because their brains are still developing they need to borrow our calmness and groundedness when they are emotionally flooded.

This is FAR easier said than done. Especially if you are highly sensitive or if you are an abuse survivor.

Remember these three things to help you stay calm and available to your kids:

1. It's not my job to make their feelings go away, it's my job to teach them about their feelings and how to feel them

2. What I felt BEFORE their meltdown is my body state, I can return to that and still care about their feelings (differentiation)

3. All feelings pass

Hang in there parents, the more you do this the easier it gets!!

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