Q and A with the brilliant Alicia Malnati! @aliciahmalnati
Learning can be hard and the urge to give up is a human one...here are three things you can do to help your children love learning for the sake of learning...
1. Give goals that are challenging (novel) but attained
2. Teach that effort is at the heart of all mastery
3. Praise tactics not traits...say "I love how you did x or y or z" instead of saying "you're so smart or talented" which makes it scarier to try new things ("if I fail this task then I might not be smart or talented)
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In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
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In this video, you'll learn that hovering over our kids to protect them is not the best form of protection, as they need us to be connected with them so they can come to us as a refuge, and that the best protection we can offer them is connection.
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