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Q and A with the brilliant Alicia Malnati! @aliciahmalnati
Learning can be hard and the urge to give up is a human one...here are three things you can do to help your children love learning for the sake of learning...
1. Give goals that are challenging (novel) but attained
2. Teach that effort is at the heart of all mastery
3. Praise tactics not traits...say "I love how you did x or y or z" instead of saying "you're so smart or talented" which makes it scarier to try new things ("if I fail this task then I might not be smart or talented)
The difference between consequences and punishment is important to understand, as consequences are the natural outcome of an action and necessary for learning, while punishments are intentional pain inflicted to control behavior, which can damage the parent-child relationship and hinder a child's growth towards internal security.
Join us as we explore the importance of teaching children to say 'no' and how we can empower them to use this skill effectively in various scenarios.
In this video, the speaker discusses time outs from a perspective based on attachment research, emphasizing the importance of taking breaks to help reset our brains when we are dysregulated and the need for calm co-regulation rather than isolating with shame or pain as a lesson, adding that the lesson we want to teach is that our bodies need breaks sometimes to calm down so our brains can make good, safe choices - and this lesson applies to marriages as well!