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Yes, a connected approach to parenting takes more time when your kids are little.
It means investing in their emotional worlds and helping them understand them and cope with them without shutting them down.
But it also means less time feeling terrible about the way you reacted to your children. AND it means less time trying to repair broken trust when they are older.
Investing in your children is time well spent, and the beautiful relationship you will develop will absolutely be worth it.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, you'll discover how to respond to your children's disrespectful behavior with compassion and set healthy boundaries while modeling respectful communication.
The difference between calm and gentle teaching and permissiveness when addressing problematic behavior in children can be confusing, but punishing a child for their mistakes does not teach them emotional and behavioral maturity; instead, being respectful and patient in drawing boundaries and limits is more effective in teaching children the right way to handle difficult situations.