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Yes, a connected approach to parenting takes more time when your kids are little.
It means investing in their emotional worlds and helping them understand them and cope with them without shutting them down.
But it also means less time feeling terrible about the way you reacted to your children. AND it means less time trying to repair broken trust when they are older.
Investing in your children is time well spent, and the beautiful relationship you will develop will absolutely be worth it.
In this video, you'll learn that when facing defiance from children, it's important to avoid grabbing for power and instead seek connection, getting curious about their needs and working with a spirit of compassion to help them, rather than against them.
In this video, you'll learn that how you live is the biggest teaching tool in your toolkit, as humans are wired to learn through watching and imitating, rather than through directions or instructions.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.