One of the hardest parts of cycle breaking is the pushback.
I get it too.
I want you to know what keeps me going in my connection focused parenting approach...in all of my years working with families I have NEVER seen a parent regret being compassionate and connected to their child.
The regrets I see parents process over and over have two themes in common: harsh response to their children, or disconnection from their children.
Hang in there, and return to the wisdom of kindness when you are being critiqued.
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In this heartwarming video, a gate attendant at Denver International Airport demonstrates the incredible power of empathy and patience in de-escalating a tense situation during a 6.5 hour flight delay, highlighting how accepting and understanding a child's emotions (and an adult's) can prevent dangerous behavioral responses and soothe their nervous systems.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
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In this video, the speaker discusses how our culture tends to attribute behaviors and motivations to people's private parts, and proposes the term "Overgenitalization" to help us understand that violence and nurture do not come from a person's reproductive body parts, but rather from the environments and social experiences they are raised in.
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