Why don't we see more images of parents hugging their teens?
They don't stop needing us to be available and comforting.
Do they need us less often? Yes. Do they transfer some of their attachment needs to their peers? Yes.
But they meltdown and they feel strong things ALOT.
Help the world, open your arms for your teens with as much compassion and tenderness as you do for your toddlers.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
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In this video, learn why it's important to focus on soothing and supporting kids' emotions before trying to teach them, as strong emotions take energy away from the brain's thinking and processing areas, and how you can use co-regulation and language to help them grow once they've calmed down. Remember to "Connect before you correct," as Dr. Karyn Purvis said.
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Learn the benefits of playing make believe with your kids, how it helps their brains and your bond with them, and get fun ideas for make believe scenarios to try, including playing wild animals on the way to lunch and defending a castle against stinky underwear, in this insightful video.
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