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Addressing Defiance

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If you grow up in a home where dominance is valued, it can be very confusing to know how to react when your children are defying your wishes or agenda.

The key is to not getting sucked into the old instinct to grab for power. Kids aren't grabbing for dominance (unless that has been modeled), they are struggling to think clearly or over tired or over hungry or have a need they don't know how to express.

When defiance shows up, remember not to seek compliance, and instead  to seek connection. Get curious about what they are needing and use a spirit of compassion to work with your child instead of against them.

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