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If you are highly sensitive or you grew up in trauma or without secure attachment, you want to be careful not to overcorrect with your kids.
Because you didn't feel supported and regulated, you might feel anxious about your kids not feeling that way with you and so drive it home too hard.
Make sure to give yourself space and time to process your past pains so they don't get in the way of accurately reading your kid's needs.
The difference between consequences and punishment is important to understand, as consequences are the natural outcome of an action and necessary for learning, while punishments are intentional pain inflicted to control behavior, which can damage the parent-child relationship and hinder a child's growth towards internal security.
Join us as we explore the importance of teaching children to say 'no' and how we can empower them to use this skill effectively in various scenarios.
In this video, the speaker discusses time outs from a perspective based on attachment research, emphasizing the importance of taking breaks to help reset our brains when we are dysregulated and the need for calm co-regulation rather than isolating with shame or pain as a lesson, adding that the lesson we want to teach is that our bodies need breaks sometimes to calm down so our brains can make good, safe choices - and this lesson applies to marriages as well!