A huge component of a secure attachment relationship between parent and child is a parent's ability to accept who their child is. When we accept our children, we teach them to accept themselves which leads to a rich inner confidence and resilience in a world that will not always accept them.
There is nature (who your child is) and nurture (how your responses to who they are makes them feel about it)
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In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
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In this video, you'll learn that hovering over our kids to protect them is not the best form of protection, as they need us to be connected with them so they can come to us as a refuge, and that the best protection we can offer them is connection.
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