One step towards being more securely attached in your relationship is to see conflict as opportunity.
Every fight is a chance to learn something new and important about yourself or your partner or both. It's not about winning or losing, it's about discovery.
And if you name your fights after...it helps bring levity and laughter around the hard part of the fight. Plus you'll remember it easier which will help you not to keep recreating it....
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In this video, you'll learn that human beings are wired to co-regulate, and that words like "come here" or "I am here" used with gentleness and compassion can be deeply soothing and help our loved ones know that their emotional needs are not a burden to us.
Supporting a trauma survivor's felt safety means being present with empathy and patience, providing a space of safety to help calm their dysregulation and offer them a secure and grounding attachment relationship.
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In this video, you'll learn that because we identify with our attachment loves, we are more likely to treat them the same way we treat ourselves, and that being more gentle with ourselves can lead to more kindness and generosity towards the people who matter most.
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