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Disgust gets a bad rap. We often forget it is an emotion and natural to our bodies. It isn't disrespectful or even rude.
It's designed to help us move away from material and people that might be rotten.
Help your kids learn to trust and listen to the creepy feeling they get when someone touches them or stands too close to them etc.
You can still teach kids how to communicate their disgust feelings respectfully without shutting them down.
Our disgust can be the difference between safety and trauma if we see it as a trustworthy warning and not simply something to stuff away.
In this video, you'll learn about the myth of parental control, and how focusing on controlling our own behavior rather than our children's behavior can lead to a more secure attachment relationship and greater self-control in our children.
In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
Teach your kids to ask, "Is this okay?" and look for a clear and enthusiastic yes, even if someone seems reserved or quiet, to ensure that all affection is confirmed and enthusiastic.