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Disgust gets a bad rap. We often forget it is an emotion and natural to our bodies. It isn't disrespectful or even rude.
It's designed to help us move away from material and people that might be rotten.
Help your kids learn to trust and listen to the creepy feeling they get when someone touches them or stands too close to them etc.
You can still teach kids how to communicate their disgust feelings respectfully without shutting them down.
Our disgust can be the difference between safety and trauma if we see it as a trustworthy warning and not simply something to stuff away.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, the speaker shares how their mother broke the cycle of attachment trauma by letting go of guilt and control, leading to a loving and secure relationship that transcended generations of abuse.
This video offers guidance on how parents can help their kids learn about conflict resolution through setting boundaries and offering compassion towards both parties, emphasizing the importance of safety and boundaries, effective communication, and moving to repair in conflict situations.