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Hovering over our kids trying to protect them, isn't the best form of protection. Our kids are going to face pain but they need us to be connected with them so they can come to us as refuge and shelter. If we try to constantly shelter them they feel suffocated and want to flee our hovering.
The best protection is connection.
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