Kids need honest AND appropriate answers when they ask tough questions about our adult struggles.
Pretending nothing is there is dismissive, but sharing it all in full adult version is intrusive.
Attuned response focuses on your child's needs, not your own, keeping the relationship right-side up, you in the parent role, taking care of their heart.
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In this video, you'll learn that one of the most important skills we can give our children is the ability to apologize and repair in a relationship, primarily by watching what we model, with the two important elements being the absence of shame and the presence of true understanding of what the other person felt or experienced as a result of our actions or inactions.
Model for them your own consent process, and help them deeply understand the nuance of desire
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In this video, you'll learn that human beings are wired to co-regulate, and that words like "come here" or "I am here" used with gentleness and compassion can be deeply soothing and help our loved ones know that their emotional needs are not a burden to us.
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