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Kids need honest AND appropriate answers when they ask tough questions about our adult struggles.
Pretending nothing is there is dismissive, but sharing it all in full adult version is intrusive.
Attuned response focuses on your child's needs, not your own, keeping the relationship right-side up, you in the parent role, taking care of their heart.
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, you'll discover how to respond to your children's disrespectful behavior with compassion and set healthy boundaries while modeling respectful communication.
The most helpful way for a child to understand boundaries is to model it for them, and as parents, we should also honor some of our children's boundaries as well to protect connection and safety, not power.