Kids often struggle with transitions and going to school is one of the most common.
Because they are having to shift modes and mindsets AND separate from us, the process of feeling willing to go and get ready can be emotional some days.
In my house Mondays are markedly the hardest.
Remember to hold the boundary, make sure there isn't an underlying need to be addressed, offer comfort and then ride the wave of emotion until the calm settles and you can get moving.
If you don't have enough time, you may have to make compromises (yes you can wear the dirty shirt, or eat cereal in the car etc) ,but stay compassionate even if you have to push to get to the next phase.
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In this video, you'll learn that a securely attached young child expresses their distress, seeks proximity to their caregiver, and calms quickly, and that this pattern of express-seek-soothe can be seen throughout our lifespan, with teens seeking friends, adults seeking romantic partners or close friends, but always involving the freedom to have an emotional need, be close, and receive comfort at every stage of life.
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In this video, learn how to better support your children's emotional regulation by prioritizing connection over correction.
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In this video, learn why it's important to focus on soothing and supporting kids' emotions before trying to teach them, as strong emotions take energy away from the brain's thinking and processing areas, and how you can use co-regulation and language to help them grow once they've calmed down. Remember to "Connect before you correct," as Dr. Karyn Purvis said.
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