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The Meaning You Place on Your Child’s Behavior

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The way we make meaning about our children's behavior is a huge component of whether or not they will have a secure attachment experience with us.

When we help our children see the needs beneath their behavior we give them the opportunity to learn how to articulate their needs instead of acting them out.

It is not enabling a child to help them see the dignified need beneath a problematic behavior. It is empowering them. This is the crux of a secure parent child dynamic.

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