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Sometimes in the moment we forget the long term goals of parenting. We are exhausted or lost in someone else's judgment or just don't know what to do.
Take one minute and pause. Imagine your kids as grownups recounting this moment, what do you wish for them to have felt or experienced from you?
Do your best and be kind when you mess up (we all do ALOT)
Hold onto the vision of your long term relationship with your kids when you're making the tedious short term decisions of the day. You won't regret it.
The myth that comforting your child will "spoil" them is not only emotionally harmful but also creates an altered brain state that leads to higher levels of stress and mental illness in adulthood, giving them compassion and comfort will only help them develop a healthier brain function.
In this video, the speaker discusses how our culture tends to attribute behaviors and motivations to people's private parts, and proposes the term "Overgenitalization" to help us understand that violence and nurture do not come from a person's reproductive body parts, but rather from the environments and social experiences they are raised in.
Learn how to set compassionate limits with your child in a way that benefits their brain development and reduces reactive responses to emotions, with the timing varying depending on factors such as age, hunger, and consistency.