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Q and A with the brilliant Alicia Malnati! @aliciahmalnati
Learning can be hard and the urge to give up is a human one...here are three things you can do to help your children love learning for the sake of learning...
1. Give goals that are challenging (novel) but attained
2. Teach that effort is at the heart of all mastery
3. Praise tactics not traits...say "I love how you did x or y or z" instead of saying "you're so smart or talented" which makes it scarier to try new things ("if I fail this task then I might not be smart or talented)
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, you'll discover how to respond to your children's disrespectful behavior with compassion and set healthy boundaries while modeling respectful communication.
The difference between calm and gentle teaching and permissiveness when addressing problematic behavior in children can be confusing, but punishing a child for their mistakes does not teach them emotional and behavioral maturity; instead, being respectful and patient in drawing boundaries and limits is more effective in teaching children the right way to handle difficult situations.