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Q and A with the brilliant Alicia Malnati! @aliciahmalnati
Learning can be hard and the urge to give up is a human one...here are three things you can do to help your children love learning for the sake of learning...
1. Give goals that are challenging (novel) but attained
2. Teach that effort is at the heart of all mastery
3. Praise tactics not traits...say "I love how you did x or y or z" instead of saying "you're so smart or talented" which makes it scarier to try new things ("if I fail this task then I might not be smart or talented)
In this video, learn how to properly respond when your child falls or gets hurt, by tuning into their reaction and responding accordingly without overreacting or dismissing their feelings.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
In this video, the speaker shares how their mother broke the cycle of attachment trauma by letting go of guilt and control, leading to a loving and secure relationship that transcended generations of abuse.