Compassion fatigue is real. And so is the power of repair.
If you have a failure of empathy with your kids, own your failure, offer compassion delayed, give space for their pain about your lack of compassion, and start the dance of connection again.
We all get out of step. The key is getting back in and taking the lead to get there.
P.S. we had our repair this morning and he said "mom it's ok, we all get grumpy sometimes, and anyways I had already forgotten"
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The myth that comforting your child will "spoil" them is not only emotionally harmful but also creates an altered brain state that leads to higher levels of stress and mental illness in adulthood, giving them compassion and comfort will only help them develop a healthier brain function.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
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In this video, learn how to properly respond when your child falls or gets hurt, by tuning into their reaction and responding accordingly without overreacting or dismissing their feelings.
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