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Compassion fatigue is real. And so is the power of repair.
If you have a failure of empathy with your kids, own your failure, offer compassion delayed, give space for their pain about your lack of compassion, and start the dance of connection again.
We all get out of step. The key is getting back in and taking the lead to get there.
P.S. we had our repair this morning and he said "mom it's ok, we all get grumpy sometimes, and anyways I had already forgotten"
Avoid focusing too much on fairness when teaching kids, as it can create a belief that good behavior is always rewarded and bad behavior is always punished, leading to the dangerous belief that they deserve any trauma they experience, instead use relational motivation to guide them towards making good choices.
In this video, you'll discover how to respond to your children's disrespectful behavior with compassion and set healthy boundaries while modeling respectful communication.
The most helpful way for a child to understand boundaries is to model it for them, and as parents, we should also honor some of our children's boundaries as well to protect connection and safety, not power.