When our kids fall or appear to get hurt, our job is not to hover or to dismiss...it's to tune in to their reaction and then respond in kind...
If they are light and fluffy about it....great! You be too...
If they are scared? Comfort and reassure them....
If they are hurt physically or embarrassed (emotional pain), Comfort them and help them process those strong feelings.
Our kids need us to be attuned and wary of overreacting or under reacting.
The idea of toughening up your children to deal with the world only makes you their first bully, stripping them of their sense of belonging with you; treat your children with respect and connection so that they instinctively protect themselves from unkind and cruel treatment.
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Learn how to motivate your children without resorting to harshness and punishment by turning up the volume on playfulness and engaging your child's whole brain in this insightful video.
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Discover why harsh punishments and power and control tactics can create compliance in children through fear and dissociative shutdown, and how these patterns can lead to adult relationships based on power and control or deep self-worth wounds in this eye-opening and insightful video that encourages compassionate limit setting without instilling fear.
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