Learn the Art and Science of Secure Attachment
Attachment Nerd gives you research-backed tools to connect with your kids and cope with parenting's emotional rollercoasters.
Hi, I'm Eli Harwood
Licensed therapist, author, mom of 3, and cyclebreaker.
I created Attachment Nerd because I believe every parent deserves a judgment free, shame free space to learn and apply the science that helps us build truly secure relationships with our kids.
I’ve spent the last 19 years working as a therapist and helping people heal from wounds that came from insecure attachment experiences. I plan to spend my remaining decades helping parents prevent those insecure attachment wounds and replacing them with securely attached relationships instead.
The Secure Parenting Program
A 6‑week, therapist‑led program that gives you digestible lessons, helpful scripts, and reflection worksheets so you can master the art and science of secure parenting. You’ll leave with fewer shame spirals and more confident, connected moments.
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Lifetime accessAll updates included
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Monthly live Q&A with EliRecorded + searchable
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Printable scripts & worksheetsReady-to-use resources
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Bi-monthly Support Group"Honesty Hour" sessions
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Monthly Neurodivergent Support GroupSpecialized community support
Books by Eli that turn relationship research into real life wins.
Read. Learn. Love on.
Raising Securely Attached Kids
Build rock‑solid connection at every age.
Uniquely Us
Create a connection ritual your daughter will remember.
How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don't Have to
An Encyclopedia for Ditching Your Emotional Baggage
Learn, Grow, Thrive
Join thousands of parents building secure attachments with their children
Research Meets Real Life
We translate dense research into practical effective tools that actually work.
Attachment Theory
70+ years of research shows that secure attachment supports our children in developing resilience, confidence, and empathy for others.
Connection First
Behavior is communication. Our job is to connect, not control—learning to reach, not preach, during the hard moments.
Healing as Foundation
Your story matters. We guide you through the brave work of reflecting on your attachment history and how it has affected your connection patterns.
Judgment-Free Zone
Parenting is messy and nobody's perfect. We create a space of vulnerability, empathy, and tenderness—because you're not alone.
Growth Journey
This isn't about perfection—it's about progress. We celebrate every step and remind you that repair strengthens connection.
Never Too Late
Whether your child is 2 or 22, it's never too late to make repairs and strengthen your bond. Hope and healing are always possible.
Perfect Parenting is not a thing—Present Parenting is.
Your children are not giving you a hard time. They're having a hard time. And sometimes we are too. The goal of the Secure Parent Program is to help you learn how to stay present, even when things are hard, so that your kids learn they can rely on you, even when life is crusty, musty, and challenging.
It’s never too late to learn how to be present and connected with our kids.
You Don't Need to Be Fixed. You Need to Be Equipped.
Get the tools that work when you're not at your best—because that's when you need them most
